Do you ever doubt you’re good enough or even qualified for the responsibilities you face? If so, you may be experiencing “Imposter Syndrome.” This short video (2.5 minutes) will help you get past these limiting thoughts in just three simple steps.
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Do you ever feel like you’re “faking it,” and you’ll be found out for your flaws and limitations? Me too. This week we’re Off Balance On Purpose in Washington, DC.
You’ve heard it all your life – fake it until you make it. But the seed planted with the word “fake” may mature into the belief that you don’t deserve what you eventually attain, and will be exposed as a fraud.Imposter Syndrome, is extremely common, especially among high achievers. Probably even this guy.
Think about it, only those who are motivated would have the courage to step into a new realm where they must learn, grow and be tested. Feeling inadequate, experiencing self-doubt, or the idea of being a “fake” is totally predictable. So what do you do about it?
First things first. You are not a fake. When you step on the field, you’re in the game. And the challenge isn’t about achieving perfection. The challenge – and the measure of your credibility – is about how you deal with what isn’t perfect or even truly understood. The most valuable people in a team, community or a family are those who can enter the unfamiliar and become what is necessary.
So here’s my suggestion, stop telling yourself that you’re “faking it” because that isn’t accurate. There’s nothing fake about learning. Failing. Hurting. Growing. Instead, tell yourself, today and every day, that you are “becoming what is required.”
When the challenge is real and demands are urgent, how do you become who you need to be?
1. Name your “gap.” What exactly don’t you understand? Specificity leads to clarity.
2. Find the parallels. Success principles and human dynamics are universal. There’s something you have done and know with certainty that serves you here. Find it.
3. Transform. Ask yourself, “If I did know the answer, what would it be?” Suspend your doubt and self-judgement and allow yourself to become the person who learns and leads.
Past experience is fantastic, but imperfectly suited to the challenge at hand. So use what you have. But understand that real mastery is becoming. And there’s nothing fake about that. Until next week, stay Off Balance On Purpose.
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