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How you consider your “circumstances” changes everything. Here’s a common phrase you may never use again.
Think of a time you’ve said something like: “Under the circumstances I’m doing pretty well.” Or, “under the circumstances, things aren’t that bad.” Such seemingly positive words allow us to reframe events or relationships, taking some satisfaction, or taking credit, knowing it could be much worse.
Now we’ve all done that, knowing it’s useful to see the upside. But here’s the question: Do you choose to operate “under the circumstances,” in a deferential position to the conditions of the moment? Or is your frame of reference bigger than the particulars of what’s happening? Let’s elevate to operate “over the circumstances.”
When we fixate on circumstances, seeing them as primary, they may become limiters or impediments to purpose. You may compromise what you believe or value, or suppress an impulse to contribute.
But what if you’re playing a bigger game? One of lifelong growth; meaningful influence; and the full embodiment of your beliefs, faith, or values? Well then the circumstances are just the playing field on which the bigger game unfolds and a reflection of your current progress.
“Over the circumstances” you’ll become more objective and less reactive. You’ll see the patterns at work and how some circumstances are circular – repeats of what’s familiar or engrained. You’ll also see opportunities that call to you.
But when you operate over the circumstances you have an obligation to act. Seeing what’s dysfunctional and repetitive, will you perpetuate it or disrupt it? Will you walk, through the doors of opportunity, not yet knowing the circumstances to follow?
In time, exact circumstances become less important as your capabilities and character mature. And others may look to you for guidance or reassurance, as you operate at a higher level. Until next week, stay Off Balance On Purpose.
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