Today’s question comes from Diane, and it’s a two-parter. First, thoughts on “Aging Gracefully,” and also “how to not let the negative comments of others and yourself drag you down?” These topics are definitely related, so from La Verkin, Utah, let’s dive right in.
Aging gracefully is all about our relationship with time. For me, getting “better with age” is an intention and pursuit along two fronts simultaneously. First, forestalling the negative effects of aging to the best of our ability. And secondly, perhaps even more importantly, taking advantage of the incredible perks that come with the years.
I highly recommend Dan Buettner’s book and current Netflix special regarding “Blue Zones” – populations with higher percentages of people who live over 100 years old. Approaches vary around the world, but typically involve good food, physical activity (improving strength, balance, and flexibility), social relationships, and alignment with joy and purpose. Good habits aren’t band-aids, but fixtures of lives and communities. And because of this, many of the negative aspects of aging are kept at bay a surprisingly long time.
Then there are the advantages of aging. Just as money well-invested compounds over time, a life well-lived earns exponential growth and learning. Relationships maintained and nurtured continue to appreciate and deepen. When you take honest self-assessments and make consistent improvements, those add up and multiply as you gain wisdom and lifelong transformation.
One such improvement and skill is learning to allow in only that which helps you. This means quickly recognizing your mistakes, taking responsibility, and correcting them. But it also means seeing negativity from others and yourself for what it generally is – resistance to growth.
Certain lessons and realizations in life can only be attained through time. So extend more grace to others and yourself, shedding yesterday’s limitations as you embrace the unfolding story to come. Hope that helps, Diane. Until next week, stay Off Balance On Purpose.